One of my dear friends passed away a couple days ago. Memories start flooding back and I get the same apprehension about funerals. I hate them and I really don’t want to go. Even avoided my best friends funeral when I was 16. First one I attended was a dear friend who lost his 8 year old boy. Couldn’t stand the...
read moreWhat did you do for your mother on Mothers Day? I know I should try and say something profound, maybe something pithy, but I’m at a loss. My mom died in 2006 in a car accident. My mother in law gets bombarded with cards made from my children. Kathi doesn’t give a fat jockey about the holiday (she can’t stand most...
read moreI’ve received a lot of feedback in emails since my last few posts. BTW, if you wouldn’t mind posting your thoughts here, so they can be shared with others, I think we would all appreciate it. It makes it easier for me to talk to everyone at once, rather than replying to emails, though I understand if the feelings are...
read moreAt my mom’s funeral in Riverton, Utah it was storming. Ice cold rain and wind. There were tents and chairs, but I stood in the rain. My wife and kids asked me to come under the canape, but I ignored everyone. I was in shock. The cold water soaking into my suit and rolling over my skin helped my mind to numb. I remember a lot...
read moreI learned that people go literally crazy when someone they know dies. I have always avoided funerals. My close friend died when we were teenagers–he flipped his dad’s boat and truck near our favorite lake, rolling the truck and throwing him from the cab. I refused to go to his funeral. My parents didn’t make me go,...
read moreOn April 25th, 2004, I received a phone call from my father at 4:14 am (time is a bit fuzzy), waking me from sleep. It was a choking, sobbing voice, and I clicked on the light to look at the caller ID on the nightstand. The first words I heard were: “Mom’s dead.” I remember my heart breaking and becoming angry at...
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