Dont Worry, Be Happy.

Posted by Jaime Buckley in Point of View | 0 comments

Life has many anomaly moments.  In fact , I can almost guarantee you the experience of diametrically opposed perceptions and results.  In my own life it seems to be a rule however, not an exception.

Focus on another, or just others and give it all you have. Your time, resources, effort, attention, money, name it…and I can almost guarantee you the moment you stop and let your bow string off and shift any attention to yourself to keep from exploding, you’ll reap a whirlwind of criticism.  It might not even be what you’re doing, or why you’re doing it, but how.  You might dodge the how and get slammed with the when.  For me it’s usually the timing of the whole matter.

You can unwind, but only when it’s convenient for others.

Mothers get hit frequently with that one.  You serve the children, care for every need of the family and yet when you want or desperately need a break–just a simple moment to take a breath, you’re criticized or even worse…expected to be the most enduring, the strongest, the one without needs.

Wow.

I’m here to say don’t worry, be happy.

Let it all go by you and know that there are times when you can do all you can for others and you’ll be presented with a choice to take a break–to let the pressure out of the steam cooker or snap.  Most of us have moments like that and it’s rare that those around you will completely see or relate to what your going through, but they WILL do their best to compare you to their own priority or value system.

There’s not a lot you can do about that, other than love them, take your slap on the wrist and then take your moment anyway.

This isn’t always about being selfish.  Many times it’s about self-preservation and if you’ll stop and think about this, you’ll see that self-preservation is in fact THE #1 priority of the UNIVERSE.  So you’re in good company here.

It doesn’t do any good to get mad about it.  It also means you don’t stop being of service to others…just do the best you can and know none of us are perfect.  Sometimes people will get it, and that’s always nice when they do…but if they don’t, it’s unlikely you’ll be able to explain it.  We all need to take those moments to keep from cracking and we all do it in different ways.  Chances are you’ll take your moment in the wrong way, at the wrong time, and maybe even looked upon as having the wrong priorities.  That’s ok.  We all make mistakes and I would rather apologize for having to disengage my mind and heart in self-preservation than to meet someone else’s definition of what I should be doing and end up going postal on them.

I’m not saying I’m right on this…I’m only saying that’s how I see it at this point.

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